Hyperemesis Gravidarum: What You Shouldn’t Say.

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Hyperemesis Gravidarum

Here are the top 5 statements that got under my skin:

  1. “It’s morning sickness, you’ll feel great by the second trimester. Just eat some soda crackers and drink ginger ale.” According to Help HER, roughly 1-3% of pregnant women are diagnosed with Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG), suffering mild to severe symptoms. If I had just “morning sickness”, I wouldn’t be thirty pounds down in a month, I wouldn’t make hospital visits or be admitted. I wouldn’t need medication or be connected to a subcutaneous pump. But guess what, a drop of water and just the smell of food forced bloody bile out of my stomach every hour to the hour. No cracker or ginger ale stabilized my symptoms. I had to quit working and had my mom temporarily move in with me because I was unable to take care of myself. I felt useless, depressed, and questioned terminating the pregnancy. Even now at almost 27 weeks and way past the second trimester, it’s not completely gone. But YOU ARE RIGHT, it’s just morning sickness.
  2. “How could you take medication? The baby will be born with a defect!”  Please keep your opinions to yourself. The last thing a malnourished, weak, and dehydrated HG momma wants to hear is how selfish she is by a taking a medication that has been approved by her medical team. One thing is for sure, I have an amazing doctor, who cares of about my well-being as well as my unborn child. I don’t know any woman, who would purposely want to risk their child’s health. Truth is, birth defects can happen with or without medication.
  3. “You don’t have cancer. People die everyday.” I’m in no way, shape, or form comparing my HG journey with that of cancer or any other illness, for that matter. I have a family fully affected by multiple diseases especially with my own beautiful mother being a breast cancer survivor. However, this is my journey and has been the most difficult experience I have gone through, please respect that.
  4. “At least you can have a baby, many women can’t. Be grateful”. How does my suffering and sharing my story make me ungrateful of experiencing life’s greatest miracle? Whether you have been affected by HG or know someone who does, you know how debilitating it is. Us HG mommas are not ungrateful in any way but are looking for some compassion, understanding, and advocacy. My heart hurts knowing there are many women who cannot bare their own child BUT again, this is my story on what has affected me emotionally, physically, and professionally.
  5. “Its mental.” Even though a positive mindset can help, Hyperemesis Gravidarum is a real condition.

Despite the hardships of HG, we find the strength to keep going, with many women willing to endure the struggle for multiple pregnancies. I know of many women who have suffered much more severely than I have and have continued on because the end result is far greater. I cannot wait to meet my baby for the first time, I know he will be the biggest blessing in my life.

For more information on Hyperemesis Gravidarum, please visit Help HER Foundation.


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  • Hey there,
    I’m just catching up on your blog. First I want to congratulate you for doing this, as a survivor I am aware that all of us should be a source of knowledge and awareness of this disease.
    I can not believe how much I understand you, in my first trimester I looked more like sick than pregnant. I got to throw 30+ times a day. Honestly I lost count of how many times I went to the emergency room for dehydration. Also used ZOFRAN pump. And by the end of my pregnancy I ended up taking a ridiculous amount of meds to control it. So I’m so with you in all this process. You got this mama! We are f*cking warrios!
    This post, girl! I got so many shit! People told me all you listed before and I got things like “It’s all drama! Hyperemesis gravidarum is glorify morning sickness” or “You’re just hiding that you’re anorexic”. I still get mad at all the sh*t I got, and seems like we all! It pisses me off, I mean we go through this horrible illness and we have to stand ignorant people saying such things. SMH!
    Anyway, sorry for the longest comment ever!
    Keep doing this x

    • themrsyepes

      Congrats to you as well for being a warrior through HG. Those who don’t suffer, don’t understand. I’m glad you can relate to this post, these statements are really what’s pissed me off the most. People need to be more aware of this condition. I appreciate your comment more than you think. Xoxo

  • April

    My all time favorites so far have been:
    1. “Omg you’re so lucky! I gained weight when I was pregnant and still can’t get it off! You’re going to look great when baby gets here!”
    … I know lots of people gain weight. If I wanted to go on a diet, I wouldn’t try to do it while I’m trying to grow and provide nourishment for my unborn baby!
    2. “You’re just trying to get attention. You’ll feel better when you decide you want to feel better!”
    … Because feeling like you’re slowly dying is SO much fun! If I wanted attention, I’d walk around naked!

    • themrsyepes

      Thank you for adding your input! Ugh people are so clueless of HG and close-minded. Are you currently suffering through it or have in the past?

  • Quirky Young Mom

    Oh my gosh!!! Please can I reblog this? I was reading and literally saying yes out loud to every point. I remember when a well meaning friend of mine tried to tell me that acupuncture might be better than “hurting my baby with medication.” I’m like girl, a minute ago you had no idea what HG even was so don’t come at me with all that crap. Phew!

    On the bright side, you’re almost in the 3rd trimester!! Woooooop! Ever so close to meeting your little love. So excited for you. I hope you’re feeling a little better today! xx

    • themrsyepes

      Absolutely reblog! Thank you, so glad you enjoyed this post! Amen to being close to the end!!!!! Hope you are doing well xoxo

  • olivia0585

    I am now 28 weeks pregnant and still suffering from HG. This blog is spot on! I only wish I didn’t have to say I know how it feels and I could change it based on my emotions but it is beyond real and I will be following your blog! Thanks for sharing.

    • themrsyepes

      I’m so sorry you’re still suffering 🙁 I know how horrible HG is and how many don’t understand it! I’m here for you at any time, feel free to reach out if you need to talk! Xoxo

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